So we’ve arrived at the 5th and final part of the Growing Pains and Life Lessons series. I hope whoever is left living of The Beatles and/or the ones who own the rights to their music don’t sue me for pulling a title from one of their songs, but I can’t think of a better way to describe this final life lesson. “Let it be” indeed.
In kind of a roundabout way even the song describes this lesson. Letting it be is learning not to dwell upon those things which are beyond one’s control. Sure, it can really suck when circumstances befall you that make your life more difficult than it should be and that you have absolutely no control to change, but that doesn’t mean you should dwell upon them. There was nothing you could do about it after all and it was going to happen regardless of whatever you’d have done, so what’s the point in dwelling on it? It’s not your fault, it’s not your doing and it’s truly beyond your control.
That doesn’t mean you can’t be annoyed or even hurt/angry over it. In many cases it’s totally justified at the outset. That said, fixating upon it does nothing to fix the issue and does nothing but drag you down.
Learning how to “roll with the punches” ain’t easy. It’s really not. Much like forgiveness, it’s something that can take years to figure out. I think we all have the tendency to fixate on everything that goes wrong to the point I think it’s part of our natural internal wiring. Alas, sometimes our internal wiring isn’t the best or most efficient way and learning to consciously override it, although difficult, can make life so much easier.
So this was short and sweet, but there wasn’t much to say here. Hereby concludes the growing pains/life lessons the first year of my 30s has brought so far. I’m sure there will be others, but this is it for now. I hope I haven’t bored you with this series of posts, but if I have not to worry, tomorrow will shift gears and get back to more of the recurring themes on my blog.
Thanks again for reading and looking forward to more exchanges of ideas and friendship with all my blogger buddies here. You’ve all been a huge blessing to me.
Hugs and love to all of you!
-Lynn Blair, The Inked Autist.